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Saddle Up Anyway

Do one thing every day that scares you. Some days that might just be saddling up. When you get a fluttering, butterfly feeling in your gut as you pick up the phone to make a call to a potential client, saddle up, you are in the right place. As you sign up for that business conference that costs more than any educational training that you have ever attended, congratulations again for saddling up, you are heading in the right direction. When you make a commitment to better the relationships in your life and that involves telling someone close to you, your real feelings, saddle up and share your feelings.

Courage is being scared to death...and saddling up anyway.
— John Wayne

Things that are new and different are sometimes scary. Don't avoid the fear or the challenge, embrace it. As you start to embrace it more, saddling up will become easier. Opportunity has a way of disguising itself in a blanket of fear. As you approach a fearful or scary situation in your life, take a moment before you saddle up, and find courage in these important factors:

  1. You are good enough to succeed and you will succeed if you work your plan.
  2. You have value and are worthy of being honored for the work you do every day.
  3. You have a positive impact on those around you and what you do is important.
  4. The difference between success and failure is sometimes simply saddling up.
The difference between success and failure is sometimes simply saddling up.

As you saddle up daily, you will continue to grow and you will forge new habits.  Your life will stop being a series of tasks and to-do lists to complete.  Instead, life will be a continuing series of adventures. challenges and opportunities with amazing rewards. The benefits of saddling up in the face of fear are huge and include:

  1. Personal growth - get out of the old routines and ruts you are in.
  2. New opportunities - a greater chance for happiness, success and fulfillment.
  3. Momentum - action will help you develop personally and professional.
  4. Perspective - the view from the saddle will constantly change when moving forward.
Complacency, average and good enough will have a challenge keeping up with you when you get in the saddle and ride off into the sunset.

Avoid the temptation to do nothing at all. Doing nothing is safe, comfortable, easy and will get you absolutely nowhere. There are very few rewards when you do nothing. The enemy of nothing is saddling up. Complacency, average and good enough will have a challenge keeping up with you when you get in the saddle and ride off into the sunset.

Doug is available to present his "Better Relationships, Better Business" message to your organization. Please click the picture for more information about Doug's keynote speaking.

Doug is available to present his "Better Relationships, Better Business" message to your organization. Please click the picture for more information about Doug's keynote speaking.



2015 Blog Year in Review

'Twas a few days before Christmas,  I sat scanning my blog, I reviewed 2015 sipping a glass of egg nog. 

The year has slipped by us, as quick as two winks. I counted 52 blog posts and 90 podcasts with web links.

The subject matter varied, but the theme, all the same. To succeed in life friends, we've got to go after big game. 

Exemplary service, work ethic, stress management all there. Inspiring quotes, book reviews, even a few app recommendations I did dare.

I wrote of superheroes, self worth and being a business smarty.  Most recently, two posts, eulogizing my amazing dad Marty.

I talked of piggy bank moments, and slowing down a bit, to breathe and relax, reducing stress and staying fit.

Reading my posts you will find lots of tricks of the trade, whether entrepreneur or business owner, never let your dreams fade.

There was the time when I posted about problematic email tone. And also one to my readers to be more attentive while giving phone.

A post about an anxiety attack that happened to me, and the hurdles we all may face on our quest for liberty.

I received plenty of responses when I wrote about my fave booksThe Go-Giver, The Present and Think & Grow Rich all deserve second looks.

Living life to the fullest, stepping out of your zone. I am always emphasizing you're not going it alone.

I wrote of 5 simple rules to live a happier life, and talked of beating to your own drum and living with delight.

Reading my posts you will find lots of tricks of the trade, whether entrepreneur or business owner, never let your dreams fade.

About mid-year I wrote an open letter to my mom, and of amazing training wheel moments that last a whole life long.

We learn a lot about ourselves when we deal with defeat. When loss and failure hurts us and we feel like we're beat.

There was a post about Seuss. Think. Wonder. Yes, indeed. Stand out when you're you and you will win, guaranteed.

And I wrote in the spring about being a nerd, and that success can come to you, when others think you're absurd. 

There was a post on social skills, about Facebook and Twitter, about being a good listener and about being a winner.

We all need a cheerleader, someone by our side, to help raise our ship high, even in a low tide. I encourage my community to walk, hand in hand, and together success will be our promised land.

In 2015 I wrote of an epidemic that's catching. Excusitis it's called and the symptoms can be quite lasting. With a positive mindset, and a great attitude, the excuse illness will pass you and a fever you can elude.

I wrote a bit about marketing, taking a social media stance. I wrote of high touch, not high tech and the client prospect "dance."

And when sometimes you need help and in ways you get stuck, I wrote of predictable habits that can bring you good luck.

But the approach I have shared, I have shared with delight, of compassion, empathy, passion and the belief,  nice is right.  And I continue to catch people as they do the right thing. I thank them for just being, and their praise I do sing.

We all need a cheerleader, someone by our side, to help raise our ship high, even in a low tide. I encourage my community to walk, hand in hand, and together success will be our promised land. 

So as I close out this year, Nice Guys Finish First seems so right. Happy holidays to all and to all a NICE night.

Nice Guys Finish First
By Doug Sandler



How Do You Feel About The Big O ?

I’m a serial Overachiever (big “O”). Again and again, regardless of what I have done in my career, I have worn this handle with certainty. I’m proud to say I am an overachiever and consider it a badge of honor. I might even consider my big O a labor of love. While some might call me and others like me, workaholics, instead, I’d like to think my passion fires me wildly; at least I have completely convinced myself this is the case.

Work hard. Stay humble. Be nice.

I ask anyone looking at me with a critical eye to think about the benefits of being an underachiever? I see none. So, why not go big O or go home. My purpose is expressed through my push. Why not work as hard as possible, set uncommonly lofty goals and shoot for the stratosphere? It’s how we big O's roll, there's no middle ground.

My purpose is expressed through my push.

Maybe you still have your big O training wheels on (or maybe you have never been to an Overachiever’s Anonymous meeting). Not yet convinced you actually have been bitten by the overachiever bug? See how you compare. If you can relate to the majority of overachiever traits below, you have been stricken. Welcome to the big O.

Hard work has a future payoff. Laziness pays off now.
  1. You are as likely to get an email response from an overachiever at 3:30AM as 3:30PM. Overachievers do not understand the concept of normal office hours.

  2. Any task that gets completed that wasn’t on a to do list is added to the to do list so that it can be crossed off, if you are an overachiever.

  3. Overachievers are not exactly sure how food fits into their day. They are quite adept at driving with their knees while scarfing down a quick meal or eating while standing at the sink. Overachievers will likely discover it’s dinner time when they still haven’t eaten lunch yet.
  4. An iPhone is the preferred timepiece of an overachiever. A watch, if worn at all, is considered jewelry.
  5. On vacation, overachievers usually need to rest when they return home since they packed 10 days of activities into 5 days. Overachievers work hard and play hard.
  6. Even before both eyes can focus, overachievers are checking their email, social media channels and messages from bed.
  7. Overachievers check web analytics and social statistics including Likes, Shares, Connections, Page Views and Followers at least ten times an hour.
  8. If there is a chance for a reward, trophy or certificate, you can count on an overachiever to be a part of the action.

  9. With laser focus, overachievers tend to work non-stop to achieve their goals. They live by the motto, “I’ll sleep when I am dead.”

  10. Although life may seem to be a spiraling series of tasks to complete, non-stop work to get done and loads of responsibility, overachievers have it all organized. They can keep track of twenty five open items, nine hundred emails to return and a call log a mile long.

  11. Imagine sitting at your computer returning calls and emails while ignoring your bladder screaming at you. Overachievers always want to get one more task completed before answering nature’s call.

  12. Even as a full grown adult, overachievers still call their mom to say, “Look at me, look at me.” You’re never too old to get a pat on the back from your mom.

  13. There is no such thing as, “It’s just business.” When overachievers are given criticism, they consider it a personal attack and almost immediately go on the defensive. It’s the well trained overachiever that takes a deep breath and thinks before he reacts.

  14. To an overachiever, the glass is never half empty, it’s half filled with opportunity, promise and positivity. And if there is not enough water to fill the rest of the glass, they will dig a new well.

  15. When it comes to conversation, an overachiever’s favorite subject is themselves or at least the latest project they are working on. Overachievers can always spin a story into a moral involving their message.

  16. While a majority of overachievers believe that capitalism is king, most also would do what they do free because they are so passionate about the path they are on.
  17. If you want to learn a skill, become an entrepreneur, a C-Suite employee or learn from the best in the business, ask an overachiever. But be prepared to hear their story, because overachievers have no problem telling you how they got to where they are.

  18. Overachievers are usually from parents that are overachievers. Their parents where right there on the sidelines either yelling, “You can do it,” or “What kind of call was that?”

  19. There is a huge gray line between family, social and business time. Overachievers are usually checking their phone for emails, voicemail, and calling the office, even when on vacation. It’s not that they feel like they can’t leave their work at work, it’s that they love it so much it doesn’t feel like work.

  20. Overachievers live a life of Fire. Fire. Fire. Ready. Aim.

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5 Big Hurdles Successful People Overcome

No one starts out successful. It takes hard work to get there, just ask anyone that has achieved any level of success in their life. I am confident they would be happy to share with you their story. Being persistent, consistent and focused is on the short list of traits needed to be successful, even if you have plenty of support, guidance and leadership in your life. A series of hurdles may come between you and success, regardless of your station in life, status or the type of success you are trying to achieve. Often times these hurdles present themselves as excuses you tell yourself.

Be forewarned, avoid the easy way out, take no detours, stay on task and do your best to hop these five hurdles. With each leap, you will be one jump closer to success.

“I’m not good with people."

Some of the most successful people I know would consider themselves introverts. As they began their professional journey, they were challenged by the fact that they would actually need to talk to people, communicate regularly and build relationships with others. Living life in a figurative bubble is not a very good strategy if success is your goal. If you have products or services in need of being sold, promoted, marketed, administered, purchased, researched or developed, the statement, “I’m not good with people,” must be removed from your life. The solution is somewhat simple - get good with people. The best way to do that is to be yourself but put yourself out there. Put yourself in situations where you have no choice but to open up. Networking meetings, association gatherings and office projects are all good avenues to help you practice getting your people on.

“I don’t like to speak in public.”

Even if you are not looking for a career in public speaking, learning how to present to others is a key hurdle to jump on your way to success. Defined, speaking in public is far more than standing on a stage and delivering a presentation with charts, Powerpoint and an audience. Public speaking involves presenting your ideas in a clear, precise and responsible manner to more than one person. The more you present your ideas to others, the more confident you become. As your confidence grows, you become more sure of your subject matter and people will develop a higher level of trust in you. Stay true to your word, remain confident without having an ego and keep presenting your ideas to others. Mastering the skill of public speaking will take you very far professionally and personally and definitely a hurdle worth jumping on your way to success. Practice makes perfect, so find your public and open up.

“I’m afraid I will fail.”

We all do it at one time or another in our lives, but don’t let the fear of failure hold you back. Many of us have let this hurdle stop us dead in our tracks multiple times. Once you get up close to this barrier, you will see it isn’t so tall after all. Fear of failure has a close associate called the comfort zone. And your comfort zone has a forcefield around it that protects you from failure. Often times it’s disguised as Netflix and a comfortable sofa. Other times is can be accepting a cost of living increase raise at work, or even a familiar cubicle at the office. You know it, you’re used to it and it’s not so bad. I would challenge you to stop settling for mediocre, average or just okay. What’s holding you back? Probably nothing more than an excuse and fear of failure. The timing will never be perfect and honestly, failing is only permanent when you quit. The greatest part about life is that we all have opportunity in our lives, uniquely hidden inside every challenge. Replace every negative word in your vocabulary with positive words. Keep your brain focused on all of the wins you have had and eliminate “loss” thinking. Be the best you can be at everything you do and failure will have a very hard time taking grip.

“I’ve never been much of a goal setter.”

You are either a part of your dreams or a part of someone else’s dreams. I would encourage you to be a player in your own dreams and not someone else’s. Life is much more fun when you are in control of it. Goal setting is a critical component. Without it, you are adding a hurdle that will be nearly impossible to jump over on your way to success. The great visionaries including Steve Jobs (Apple), Larry Page and Sergey Brin (Google fame), Steve Case (AOL) all pushed hard to make sure their goals became a part of not only their personal lives but also a part of their company’s corporate culture. In its simplest form a goal is a promise you make to yourself with an actual plan to get you there. Start dreaming and start living. Your dreams will come true if you set a few goals for yourself.

“I’m not really sure how to get where I want to go.”

This hurdle can stop you dead in your tracks. You may think you are moving forward but in actuality, you are only getting ready to move forward. Since you are moving things around your desk, setting up unproductive appointments, pacing your office, prepping for action and letting distractions, well, distract you, you probably think you are actually doing something. You are not. Stop fooling yourself. The best way to get started is to get started. Purposeful action will help you jump this hurdle. When in doubt of the action step to take first, find someone who is where you want to be, invite them out for a cup of coffee or set up a face to face meeting and open up to them about your plans, goals and dreams. Now is not the time for an ego; now is the time to shut up and listen to what they have to say. Once you have listened, write down a handful of action items and get moving.

Your comfort zone has a forcefield around it that protects you from failure. Often times it’s disguised as Netflix and a comfortable sofa.

As you leap over one hurdle another may come into view. Don’t allow it to slow you down. Use the confidence and the momentum created to help propel you forward. I’m excited most for anyone that recognizes that it won’t be easy, but that it is possible to be successful. Keep moving forward, keep jumping high and get to the success line, it’s just around the corner.



10 Thinks You Can Think About Success While Reading Dr. Seuss.

10 Thinks You Can Think while reading Dr. Seuss Quotes.

10 Thinks You Can Think while reading Dr. Seuss Quotes.

Life can be funny, from here and to there. And success is a sliver as thin as fine hair. So how can you find it, searching high, seeking low? Precisely how to grip it, it’s so hard to know. It’s the ultimate quest we search for each day, in clue corners and hint houses the answers they lay. I’m quite sure the solution can be found here by you, through the quotes of the creator of Thing 1 and Thing 2. So read on blog readers, keep your brains nice and loose, as you study the musings of that man Dr. Seuss.

Think and wonder, wonder and think. ~Dr. Seuss

Take time to get deep in your thoughts. Expand your “what-if” possibilities. You can accomplish great things if you give yourself freedom to spend time thinking about the limitless possibilities.

Only you can control your future. ~Dr. Seuss

Although you will have lots of supporters, cheerleaders and guides along the way, it is you that is in control of your future and no one else. Don’t rely upon others to believe in your dreams more than you do. Your future belongs to you and it is up to you to control it.

Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It's not. ~Dr. Seuss

Don’t just do. Care as well. Be conscientious, mindful and caring when you take your journey. There will be many delicate things in your wake. Be aware of your surroundings and while it is great to have focus, don’t lose sight of the role you play in making this world a better place to be.

Adults are just outdated children. ~Dr. Seuss

Don’t forget to have fun. Be playful and enjoy life. All work and no play leaves little room for fun in your life. Have fun and enjoy the ride.

Whenever things go a bit sour in a job I'm doing, I always tell myself, 'You can do better than this.' ~Dr. Seuss

There will be times when things go perfectly well. And then there will be times when things aren’t perfect. Understand, you have plenty of room for improvement. Be open to make changes along the way. Be flexible enough to make changes quickly. Be wise enough to know when change is needed.

Why fit in when you were born to stand out? ~Dr. Seuss

Being unique, special and totally YOU is awesome. There is no one better at being you than you. When you play your role well, with confidence and without hesitation, you will succeed not just in business, but in life as well.

To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world. ~Dr. Seuss

There are people in this world that need you, including your kids, your family, your friends and your supporters. Never lose sight that you may only be one person, but you are very important person. You have an impact in this world and it is impressive.

Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple. ~Dr. Seuss

Don’t get so caught up in asking so many questions that you don’t move forward for lack of knowing all the answers. You will never know everything. Keep moving, keep smiling and keep loving life as you take your journey.

A person’s a person, no matter how small. ~Dr. Seuss

There is no such thing as an insignificant life. Everyone from the stockroom employee to the CEO plays a vital role in business. Stay humble, keep humility in your heart and keep your ego in check. Never look down upon someone and feel you are better than they are. The bigger your position within an organization, the more aware you need to remain of everyone on your team.

And will you succeed? Yes you will indeed. 98 and ¾ percent guaranteed. ~Dr. Seuss

Think it into existence. Goal setting, visualizing and charting your path from here to there are essential steps towards success. You have greatness within you and you have control over your future. The only reason you will not succeed is if you quit. Stay in the game, have a positive attitude, stay consistent and be persistent. You will succeed.

You’ve got this, quite surely, success is your friend. It’s not hiding from you, it is just ‘round the bend. It’s your job, you see, to keep up the pace, we know you’re a winner, so go win this race. Life is a journey for all of us here. We’ve got feelings and emotions, we’ve got worries and fear. If we do it together and walk hand in hand there, from the bottom of our toes to the top of our hair. Be a lover of life, work hard and play harder, ambition and good luck come to those who are smarter. As we finish this story of Seuss and his words, may your dreams soar to heights with the highest of birds.