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Have I Told You Lately That I Love You?

Relationships can be challenging. Actually they can be downright difficult, challenging, amazing, intense, frustrating, beautiful, exhilarating, painful, wonderful and disappointing.  And that’s just in the first week. There is so much to remember, so much to do, and so much not to do. How can we ever really expect to learn it all?  At 51 I thought I would have it figured out by now, and on the days that I thought I knew all the answers, apparently they changed all of the questions.  There is not an official manual on building relationships or any authority on falling in love.  There is however, a variety of rock and roll song titles that can be used to describe the mysteries locked within the subject of love.

Whatever words I say, I will always love you.
— Adele


Let’s take a look at some of aspects of True Love and try to explain exactly What’s Love Got To Do With It.  When we first witness the Power of Love, we realize the intense amount of emotion is overwhelming, much more than one person can possibly handle. Our entire world revolves around when we can be with our partner and how long we can be with them. It doesn’t matter where, when or how, we just want them with us, all the time. Just the smell of their hair gets us excited.  As our relationship intensifies we may not even be aware that we are Crazy In Love. Without a second thought we will stay up all night talking on the phone or go out of our way 40 miles just to catch a glimpse of our partner. We will snuggle with them until sunrise, regardless of our work schedule. Our priorities get totally whacked out and all we want is more, more, more of our lover.

In the beginning of our relationship, as love is just being born, we want to wait for just the right opportunity to spring the L-O-V-E word on our partner. Too soon and they might not reciprocate, ouch. Too late and maybe the relationship will go stale or our partner will think we don’t care enough, soon enough.  In today’s Modern Love, gents, don’t hold back, if you feel it,  and you think the timing is right, drop the “L” word on her. It’s ok to be romantic, sensitive and caring. If words like amazing, passionate and nurturing are used when your lover is talking to their best friend, describing you, you’re in the right zone.

However far away, I will always love you.
— The Cure

As your relationship matures, understand that your partner has feelings, fears and emotions too. Allow your partner room to have opinions and to be their own person. If you feel as though you are a Victim of Love, change your perspective. It’s not always about you. Your partner comes into the relationship (as you do) with baggage, we all have baggage. This baggage was created years ago from childhood or possibly from an abusive relationship, having nothing to do with you. True love is about being supportive, loving and empathetic. When you witness something uncharacteristic surfacing in your lover’s personality, be there for your partner, get rid of the Love Stinks attitude and understand your partner is not trying to hurt you. Nurture your relationship and watch your love Soar. You may think you are on a Love Roller Coaster, but instead you are on a beautiful journey to Unconditional Love.

Love is great, love is kind, Love is Tender. The best kind of love is a True Love. When you finally find your Love of a Lifetime, you will know Love is the Answer.





5 Simple Rules for Living a Life of Happiness

One of the greatest feelings you can possess is happiness. When you are happy, people want to be around you. It’s a simple attraction principle; when you are happy, you attract other happy people. Happiness can spread quickly and is very contagious when gratitude, generosity, and positivity are added to your relationships.

Hundreds of studies have been conducted on the positive effects and health benefits of being happy. It’s hard to argue with the facts, a happy you equals a healthy you. Although I have always considered myself a happy person personally, as I have developed my professional life as well, I have discovered that the happier I am, the more successful my business became too.

Here are five rules to help you live a life of happiness:

1. Don’t take life so seriously.

As I was growing up my dad would always have to remind me that worrying about things that are outside of my control was harmful to my attitude and ultimately challenging my ability to be happy. Plus, I had no control so I should stop worrying. He’d continue by saying that worrying about something within my control was not needed since I had the ability to fix the problem by taking action. Our time on this earth is limited, it’s extremely important to make the most of it while we are here. Look at life as a dress rehearsal, even if we mess up our lines, we can stop, take some advice from the experts that support us and guide us through it, and get back to the show.

2. Define for yourself what success means.

Don’t let others define what success means to you. Success to you might be a filled bank account, fancy automobiles and material items. To others it might mean free time, lots of family gatherings and plenty of staycations. Professionally, success to me means working for myself, never having to hire staff and creating my own products and services. Personally, it means loving and being loved while enjoying the time I have in this lifetime. Someone else might define success as being CEO of a Fortune 500 company, having hundreds of staff members and having a corporate Amex card. You have the ability to make your own goals, dream your own dreams and define what success means to you.

3. You have an unlimited amount of do-overs

About 40 years ago, my brother and I would play ping pong in our rec room. To the right of the ping pong table stood a rubber tree plant. When the ball either hit the rubber tree plant or came too close to make a return shot, we’d yell “DO-OVER!” As an adult we have unlimited do-overs. As your professional career evolves, if you don’t like the direction you are going, take a do-over. Nearly 3 years ago, at 48, I decided to take a professional do-over, reinventing my professional life to where it is today as an author, speaker and business consultant. I have never been happier in my life and while there have been some very scary moments, it has also proven to be one of the most rewarding directions I have ever gone, making me extremely happy.

4. Worry less about what they think.

Who the heck is they anyway? And honestly, until they are paying my bills and living my life, “they” don’t know what is best for me. I get to define my happiness and determine what life is all about for me. What it really comes down to is this: you have to deal with the consequences of your actions and “they” get to walk away. There will always be a court of public opinion and you will never be able to please all of the people in that court, so you may as well make decisions and take action based upon what works best for you and not “them.”

5. Play by your own rules.

There is nothing worse than a static policies and procedures manual. Sure, there are some rules that are very important to follow. I usually put them into the category of common sense. Rules like, “Don’t harass your coworkers,” or, “Physical or verbal bullying will not be tolerated and subject to termination.” People breaking these rules need to get a life and should actually try to harness that negative energy into something positive, lasting, and beneficial to the human race. Happiness is created by treating others fairly, doing what feels right, making a positive impact on the planet and by following what you are passionate about.

When I originally sat down to write this blog, I was challenged by the idea of creating a set of rules pertaining to making rules for your life. Use these rules as guidelines and suggestions. Keep in mind, these are the rules that apply to my life and are “serving suggestions” for you. If you don’t like them, get your own set of rules and start getting your happy on, today. I know it will be worth it and will ultimately, make you very happy.